by Dianna Defiant, Guest Writer
Location: Our Virtual Advice Desk

Irony of Ironies: just as my column on griefing ran, a spammer (a real-life form of griefer) posted pornographic links to the original version of the column below! I’ve deleted it and have closed comments on all old blog posts.  Di’s advice is timeless, so I’m running it again.

Di, honey, you have a perverse and secret admirer—let’s go beat him up

Dear Di:
I met a nice guy in SL. We started dating and things progressed to the “relationship” stage. He wanted us to be a couple - go steady so to speak. He even gave me an engagement ring but we made no announcements or anything. A week or so later I popped into his apt (he gave me permission to do that) and found him dancing in the arms of another woman when he had said he was busy. I was so stunned by it I left real quick and didn’t ask anything until later. He said it was harmless fun and chatting with a friend, so I left it at that (I have male friends too). So anyway, I keep finding him with the same woman again and again…never in a compromising situation, but he never has a really good explanation except that they are friends. I told him I think he’s cheating on me, and then he told me how much he loved me and didn’t want to lose me and he even proposed to me and wanted me to be his SL “partner.” I’m afraid he’s just doing it to have someone waiting around for him and he’s still gonna go out and play. Do you think he’s cheating or is that even possible in SL??

Signed
Wondering

Dear Wondering:
Stop wondering honey – it’s cheating in my book, even if we are in SL. Since he wanted YOU to be his virtual better half, he should play by the couple rules and stop dilly-dallying with any pretty face that comes along. Hanging with a friend is fine – even a female friend. We all have more opposite sex friends anyway – nothing wrong with that. But if he’s lying about what he’s doing and saying he’s busy then you catch him with her…sounds fishy to me. Some guys (and girls) like the drama of sneaking around, getting caught, fighting, making up, etc…don’t ask me why. It’s all exhausting and a big waste of time in my book. Either decide to keep him in your harem and find some other boyfriends too, or dump him and move on if you are looking to “settle down.”

And remember everyone – even though we’re in SL, every avvie has a real person behind it and real feelings can get hurt, so be careful. Remember, hell hath no fury like a pixilated avatar scorned.

XXOO
Di

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